Stress? More Like Time to Confess

Good morning dear followers! I hope your day is a good one, and if you are in school, I hope the beginning of the semester isn’t too stressful. *BAM!* Topic for the day: stress! See how I jumped in right there? Well here we go! I realize that stress for most people that are reading, may not entirely be stress from school. But I recognize that, that is my situation, and I am more than happy to discuss how I deal with such.

I will admit, I am not always the best dealing with stress. I think I have touched this subject before, but let me explain again. Over the past semester, I realize how much better I have gotten at dealing with such. I feel as though my inevitable push into the real world has really helped me find the resources I need, as well as find the best ways to deal with such issues. But I also now realize how much of this stress comes from within. And as I planned, my New Year’s resolution is to be more honest with others and with myself in order to help relieve some of this stress (as well as be more present on this blog).

Recently, I was upfront and honest with my parents about an issue that had been causing me deep and profound stress for years. Soon, I would like to be honest with all of you about this issue, just now is not the right time [check back again soon ;)]. Never the less, this brought me more inner peace than I could have ever asked for. Sometimes that is all it takes, is to be open and honest, no matter what. Doing what is best for me, has taken me years to try and understand, comprehend, and execute.

But! Don’t think of it as a chore. There are simple things you can do everyday to take time for yourself, to relax.

  • Sip some tea,
  • Take a bath,
  • Read a book,
  • Take a walk (did you know that a 10 minute walk can help boost creativity?),
  • Talk to someone you love about what bothers you,
  • Sit alone and enjoy the sun,
  • Organize your room or office,
  • Write down a poem, a feeling, anything!

These are somethings that I know would help me on any given day. Try one or two! In the end, stress is inevitable. However, how you deal with it and how you change your life because of it, is how you can either make it better… or worse.

What helps you destress?



It’s Okay to Not Be Okay

Hitting home with those rough topics today.

A few weeks ago, after the Coming Out Monologues held by the NCF Alliance, I walked to the bay with my good friend Sofia. We talked about our depression and how we’ve gotten through it all. We both had our rants and chatted about what it all meant, and I realized something that night.

I am grateful for my depression.

I know, I know. “How can you be grateful for something that has destroyed you for years?” I have actually come to terms with my depression. It has made me into the person I am today. Sure, I will have my bad days. Everyone does. The part that helps it all make sense to me is the realization that this wont go away anytime soon. I’ve lived with it for a long long time, and I can foresee it for a long time to come. But the difference between me a few years ago, and who I am today, is that I have grown into a better human through my depression. I have been able to communicate my feelings much better than I did before, and be able to help others that need it.

I feel as if that has helped me more than anything else; being able to be there for other people. I seem to have the ability to feel others pain a lot easier than others may be able to.Through that, I have been able to help pull others up when they are down, and that in turn not only makes me feel better as a person, but lifts me up.

But overall, having those days where everything isn’t “okay,” is totally okay. It’s healthy. It makes you reflect and push through the days harder, and more efficiently. The trick is to not let it bury you. When I have piles of work I want to get done, social things I want to do, and I get hit with this wave of sadness, I do need to take a day off, and that is totally okay. You have to do what you need to do to make yourself feel better.

What pushes you to feel better when you feel down?